Hahahahahaha haaahahahaha achooooo pachakkkk and few more have been the sounds my four and half year old Aarav and her two year old sister are making from past four hours.
Thanks to Ashok Rajagopalan’s rollickingly hilarious book ‘Gajapati Kulapati’.
‘Small noses catch small colds. Big noses catch big colds.’ Such is the indisputable, childlike logic of Ashok Rajagopalan.
A hilarious story of how village’s most loved temple elephant, Gajapati Kulapati, catches the most violent cold. One terrific sneeze and the bananas go flying out of the banana seller’s hands and land on an unsuspecting postman and the falling continues. My son said “mama isnt it cute that the elephant is actually feeling sad for scaring all his friends,” with the most gigantic sneeze in the whole world.
The story also beings out the kindness and love of villagers towards the animal.
Hats off to the author for being the illustrator too. The illustrations endear the reader to the elephant.
The repetitive words make it great to read aloud.
We even did a small activity of guessing professions taking a cue from the book. For eg postman, banana seller, teacher etc.
Our Lil boy and gal could guess doctor, sailor, carpenter,driver, astronaut, pilot, vendor and few more from the flashcards showed.
We give it a fabulous 👌👌👌👌👌
Today is the first day of my fight againstyelling and yes it was clear to me that this was going to be a REAL challenge.
But I must tell you all that I did pass through the entire day without yelling!
In the process of controlling my anger several times in a day what I figured out was that I yell before I even realize I am yelling.
I spent time trying to figure out how to prevent getting into a situation where I yell. What were my hot buttons? What did it FEEL like when I was getting into the red zone where I snapped and let my frustration out?
I also noted a couple of things:
1. I need space. I need, on average, an hour or two a day where I don’t have to interact with anyone, where I can be alone with my thoughts and feelings and breathe.
2. I need to simplify. My worst days are the ones where I am trying to do too much.
3. I need sleep. I can subsist on 6 hours of sleep for a bit, but it’s not enough, and when I’m tired I get snappish and grumpy and have very little patience. Ideally I need 7-9 hours each night. Which means I need to commit to a regular bedtime, no matter what. And I also need to be on alert when I haven’t gotten enough sleep that I will have a harder time with patience.
4. I need to let go of expectations. I discovered that I was far more stressed out and therefore yelled when I was trying to do something special for Aarav or Sarayu or Ranjith. Seriously, go ahead and laugh, but I was that mom/wife who was hissing through my gritted teeth I am doing this for YOU, so you better [expletive] ENJOY IT. And it was because I had set myself up with EXPECTATIONS. In my head, I had created a fantasy image of how things would go, and when it didn’t meet those expectations, I would get angry at them. Which, if you think about it, is a twisted sort of hurt. Acknowledge, please, I’m doing something NICE for you? I’d love it if you thanked me for it.
The biggest thing I got from this day was the ability to take a step back and observe my actions and reactions. Because until the Challenge I had never really acknowledged that my yelling was because ‘I’ was missing something – either sleep or space or my expectations were out of line or I was doing too much.
I always explained it simply as the fact that no one listens to me, and they only way they listen is when I yell. But now things seem to be changing. There were six fights at home today and eureka it all got solved without my interference. Kudos to me!